"Explain what kind of relationship you want and why, defining what commitment means for you without giving an ultimatum." If he isn't open to a discussion, let him mull it over for a couple weeks.
"You have to decide which you want more: a guy who's committed or this guy, even if he won't ever be," Trespicio says.
Spending Saturday morning in the soup kitchen or helping an elderly person carry his groceries may be all it takes to have him calling you girlfriend.
"The best type of date allows you to stop texting, put the phone down, and really foster a deep connection," Kelman says.
Restaurants can be nice, but try something a little outside your comfort zone from time to time.
Even if you're anxiously awaiting his call, you shouldn't be available every time he wants to see you.
"You want to create something worth investing in and make him realize your value," Trespicio says.
This helps him to realize that your time is valuable and that he'll have to go out of his way to see you. "Don't move dates around too much—that can get frustrating for a guy who also has a busy schedule like you," Trespicio says.
It's easy to let parts of yourself go when you meet someone you think is the man of your dreams. "Trying to be someone you're not is so transparent to a guy," Kelman says.
If it's been about six months and he hasn't dropped one hint about where he sees this going, casually speak up, says Jennifer Kelman, a licensed social worker and relationship expert at
For example, if you'd like him to meet your parents, ask if he'd be up for going out to dinner with them, but let him know there's no harm if he's not quite ready for that yet.
"The most appealing thing to a man is a woman who has her own autonomy and strength," Kelman says.