Letting go of such intoxicating nourishment seems unimaginable.Before you are tempted to do something risky -- like leave your stable, good relationship for your exciting emotional lover -- it's important to examine what's really going on. There's a huge difference between a platonic friendship and a friendship that has crossed the line into the emotional sex danger zone.But no matter how you may rationalize it, these are huge trumpet blaring warning signs that your friendship crossing the line into emotional sex, and therefore cheating.
Having an affair is usually a symptom of an underlying problem in your life and in your relationship.
Something is missing, and that missing element makes you vulnerable to temptation.
In truth, most infidelity occurs not because it is planned, but because people find themselves in situations where their emotions completely overwhelm (and even surprise) them.
While people trapped in troubled marriages are more vulnerable to infidelity, I've discovered that a surprising number of people in seemingly solid relationships also respond to the novelty of new love and end up getting swept away by an affair.
If you find yourself having sexual or romantic fantasies about your friend, you've crossed the line into emotional sex.
You may argue you're just Facebook friends, or you're just innocently flirting and it means nothing.
Pretty soon, you find yourself glowing every time you spend time with this person. This is especially true of women who produce higher levels of oxytocin -- the bonding hormone that enhances the feeling of having found your "soul mate" connection.
Any contact with the person becomes as potent as a drug addiction.
These addictive love chemicals feel so good that it's difficult for you to even imagine ending contact with your friend.
Your connection feels genuine and even life-sustaining.
You become friends with the sexy co-worker and decide to carpool to work together. You're married, or engaged, or you're in a committed relationship. All those tingly feelings and the fantasies that perhaps a "perfect love" can really exist isn't destiny knocking -- they're caused by "love chemicals" in your brain.