BUT, if that joker aint acting right, and his behavour is INCONSISTENT and not what you want in a man, let his tail GO! Remember, Brothas, weather from US or Nigeria are not all put in the same category. As far as the culture thing, someone on Nairaland may better help u with that understanding, love & light,boganj: OKAY yall i have been going wih this man for about 2 months and we were almost perfect from the start until thing start crashing down i although when we started dating i had no idea he was nigerian untill a week after us being together i never really cared to much because he seemed to be a great guy i also new that thing that he does was going to be different from thing i wasnt use to but i was willing to see pass that because i was really falling for this man he did everything i asked of him and vise versa he always wanted to be dominate and controlling almost possessive but i took it as he loved me which he did i tried to be very patient but he had a very bad temper which but a dent in our relationship i am 19 years old and he is 21 which he felt was a problem at first but we got passed it i started to really love him but his actions wouldnt let me he is very controlling insecure and sometime mindless he felt his word was always over mine because i was young and a american i actually dont put nigerians down because some of them are great just have to have patients to deal with them How come the only Canadian I dated was full of poo. We all have good and bad sides but we must embrace both in someone we love.
But for the most part there have been no clashing issues, When and if they do arise we will deal with it appropriately, we have been very clear with the fact that if you don't say whats on your mind or troubling you it wont get dealt with.kistehsiadont try to tell him what to do only support him when he's made up his mind about somethin and do not argue wit him cos they hate intimidation.
be respectful and trust me you'l always love a Nigerian man.
I tend to be very patient and willing to learn new things, so INSTEAD of getting angry when I don't understand his behavior, I try to remember we have our differences.
I plan on later becoming a Marriage and Family counselor so I THINK the best place to start is within my own relationship, Sometimes he is the sweetest man ever, and I adore spending time with him, then at times its like he's sitting on a throne and I am catering more to his needs than he is to mines.
We know that sounds like common courtesy but these days, it’s no guarantee.
They are the cream of the crop A big argument many make for immigration is that immigrants are generally adding to American society in a great way.
Sometimes I think common sense should tell a man how to act towards his woman, but then I remember we have different views, I just basically would like to know why he can't/ or won't diverge away from his traditions for just a while (relationship wise), because I consider myself to be feminist, yet I've sacrificed some of that pride and cooked a few meals, cleaned up a bit, and done so without griping or complaining, wonder if he'd do the same, You will definitely expect different things like behaviours and understanding of opinions.
You knew this before you agreed to date each other so i think the best to be ready to face all the joy of relationships and other side of it.cooking & cleaning?
I perfectly understood we got different backgrounds but she wanted me to act Canadian when am not. I never knew she was Canadian and never asked her, she told me.