You’ll have boundaries Having confidence means you’ll draw boundaries for inappropriate behavior. We’ve all seen someone we love in a relationship that didn’t have this, where their partner would treat them poorly, but they would never stand up for themselves.
It’s extremely hard to be happy with yourself or your relationship if you can’t stand up for yourself when you think you’re being wronged.
Repeat positive affirmations that reinforce the feelings that you want to feel.
Confidence is projected when you know what you like and what you don't like, when you have opinions and aren't afraid to share them, and when you are comfortable with your values and goals.
Confidence is projected when you aren't particularly feeling the need for your date to like you, and instead are wondering if you like him or her.
She’s also talked about the ways confidence improves your self-image and allows you to have a healthy attitude about your physical appearance. Maybe you’re in a coffee shop or just walking down the street. They think to themselves, “I’m running late,” or “I’ll talk to them next time,” and they pass up the opportunity to meet somebody new who could be potentially amazing for them. And sometimes they’re rewarded with an incredible relationship that enriches their life in a significant way. Confidence lets you ask for the phone number, it lets you make the first call, it lets you lean in for the kiss. Imagine if I sent you to a reality TV show with only four people, you and three potential significant others.
But I’d like to share some thoughts on the power of self-confidence when it comes to your love life.1. You see someone that strikes your fancy, and you think, “Wow, that sure is an attractive fella/lady.” And then? The person who’s next-level confident — those who are self-assured enough to push past excuses and discomfort? You’re willing to go for what you want, because you know if you don’t get it, you’re still going to be okay. You have a month to get to know each one, and then you get a choice: pick one to marry or spend your entire life alone.
Cue paranoia, neediness, suffocation, and the inevitable breakup.2.
You’re willing to be vulnerable When you’re truly confident in yourself, you can open yourself up emotionally. You’re willing to let your partner fully in on the good times and the bad.
No “friend zone,” no wondering “what if,” and no beating yourself up for not going for what you want. You can have friends, but no romantic relationships. Now imagine the same show, except you get to meet as many people as you like. It makes you know, really know with 100% assurance, that you are amazing, that you can find someone to date you whenever you want, and that you don’t have to settle for anything less than ecstatic in your relationships.
You put yourself out there and take a chance, which is the ONLY way you’ll ever get what you really want in a relationship. And this is why confidence is a super multiplier when you’re dating. After all, who you end up with in life may be the most important decision you ever make. How amazing would someone have to be for you to pick them? Every time you decide you don’t like someone, you can “next” them. You get to play forever until you find someone you connect with and absolutely adore. And which show do you think gets you a better life partner? When you feel that way, you give yourself permission to have incredibly high standards and really screen people to see if you are a good fit for each other.
You’re willing to be honest all the time without worrying about judgment or rejection, because you’re comfortable enough in yourself, flaws and all. No masks, no cover, no hiding or pretending things are better or worse than they are.
And you’re willing to say, “I love you” early and often, without worrying about whether or not you’re hearing it back.3.
Is it possible that you sabotage your relationship with negative patterns of behavior driven by a little but loud voice that says you aren't worthy of love? It is very difficult to respond openly or lovingly to someone who has contempt for you.