“If not, you’re only creating a recipe for disaster.”You’re partner’s always trying to keep up with The Joneses: Divorce attorney Palanda Brownlow says that a 2009 report by the University of Virginia showed that couples who argue about what they don’t have and covet what their neighbors do have are over 30% more likely to split than those who only disagree about money a few times a month.Clearly there’s a conflicting financial priority when you’re focused on saving money and your partner’s focused on spending You only get calls on payday: Friday night makes for a great date night, but if your supposed suitor only pops up every other week that should be your first red flag.
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“She just wanted someone to provide for her so she wouldn’t have to work,” he says on reflection. avoid heartbreak — and the loss of hard-earned money — by sussing out a woman’s true motives. “I’m looking for a perfect 10 — someone who’s 5 on the looks scale with $5 million in the bank.” She earns in the top 1 percent, but she’s not interested in a parasite who’s not earning his own keep.
“She was good on paper — attractive, had her career — but she had her own goals. Gold diggers are such a problem in NYC, one woman has set up an agency that proclaims it will weed them out. “I can smell a gold digger from a mile away,” says Spindel, who says she rejects about 10 percent of all those vying for a place in her 3,000-member stable of beauties. “Some people may call me a gold digger, but I call myself a goal digger — I’m goal-oriented, I have a really nice lifestyle, but I need a husband who can move me into the next tax bracket, together. “There are definitely some women who are clearly gold diggers — very focused on wanting to live a certain type of life that they don’t think they can accomplish on their own or don’t want to accomplish on their own — and finding these men is the answer,” says Manhattan-based relationship therapist Rachel Sussman.
Both parties are trying to figure out a happy medium where they can work together on a common goal for the foreseeable future.
What that really boils down to is one side wanting something the other has and vice versa. Wining and dining are par for the course when wooing a potential life partner, but when extravagance becomes the focal point, one has to question whether the relationship is based on genuine love or just money.
YES What is clear is that when it comes to relationships in NYC, money talks.
“When you ask guys their biggest problem dating in the city, they complain that all women just want rich guys.
Upper East Side matchmaker Janis Spindel founded Club J-Love in 1993 — and since then claims to have 1,008 marriages under her belt. “It’s why [my clients] come to me — to protect them from bimbettes and gold diggers.” According to Spindel, gold diggers are a growing problem, now that the city is awash in “more money” — from Wall Street to hedge funds to startups. What she has to offer: "I have looks, youth, fun, spontaneity and dedication! “There are other women who do have careers and ambition, but they have that fantasy of dating someone who works on Wall Street or makes more money than they do, and [that this] will give them a more interesting life.