If his response seems like an attack, resist the instinct to be defensive.
Stay calm and ensure he knows exactly what you are trying to express.
Depression Might Make Him Feel Unworthy of Your Love Because depression tends to affect people’s sense of worth, it can make him believe he does not deserve love.
The intention of fixing someone may be good, but it can make the person with depression feel you are looking down on them or don’t accept them.
This bothers both sexes, but it seems to irritate men significantly more, according to the therapists and men Talkspace interviewed.
See it as the beginning of a discussion you can resurface occasionally.
He Might Interpret Neutral Things In a Negative Way Depression often works like a game of telephone where no one wins. The person with depression would love to receive this kindness as it is, but their depression has set up a series of negative filters.
If he hurts you, you should know he most likely did not intend to hurt you, said matchmaker Cassie Moffit, who has successfully matched couples with mental illness.
Knowing this will allow you to be more patient and understanding.
“In this emotional space, dating becomes a chore,” said therapist Paul Hokemeyer.
“It’s viewed as yet another problem rather than a solution to free you from depression’s parasitic grasp.” If you feel the man you are dating is afflicted with this attitude, be patient.
By understanding these issues and knowing how to respond, you can support the man you love without threatening the relationship or your emotional wellbeing.