If you screw something up due to lack of confidence, then it's really on you..the girl (though, if tonight's other threads are any indication, I'm sure somebody will sign on and rant about how it really WOULD be the girl's fault for being insensitive enough to be so darned accomplished).You set the tone, and you can choose to set it differently. How'd you score the date in the first place if she's so clearly somebody who'd never be amenable to dating somebody like you? You can say you don't do this, but you probably do.
When analyzing the potential compatibility between ourselves and a suitor, oftentimes, the "he's out of my league" excuse comes into play.
He (or she) is too tall, too attractive, too smart, too funny, too ambitious or just too plain awesome to be interested in you, right? I've come to the realization that no one is truly "out of my league," and here's why.
I put myself down despite the other redeeming qualities I have.
I viewed my worth as based on how attractive other people thought I was.
You may find a nice one who won't be rude in her let down but she is defiantly not interested.
If you think you're a five, then that's how you're gonna come off.
But it wouldn't have mattered with this girl anyway, she's just way out of my league. My question is, is going on these dates with a "9" when you're a "5" on your best day good or bad? You never know what could happen (but usually you do, and it's "nothing") 2. These experiences can be It sounds like you lost your confidence.
All those well traveled, vegan, wind-instrument playing doctors of music might not be her type.
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