Rather than being predictable and ineffective, be spontaneous and successful! ” She says “I know.” You think to yourself: It has to be someplace where we could talk, get to know each other, have fun, get intimate, and hopefully even get physical.
Man, I hate when people say, “Why don’t you take her to the movies for your date? Where but where should I go that meets these pretty standard requirements? place to go that meets these very basic qualifications for a good first date.
So instead of telling her how you’re worth a million bucks, lead her through an experience where she feels like a million bucks.
For a rich guy in this situation, it’s easy to feel trapped. Because here’s the secret: women are attracted to a man based on how he makes her feel, far more than they are to how much he’s worth. But even then, a pretty woman knows how to find a good time. This way, when she figures it out on her own, she’s already built an emotional connection.
She heard more about his external accomplishments than anything else. He’d be wise to focus first on connecting on an emotional level when he meets women. In short: the rich guy must let go of his money and let her figure out he’s rich and successful later in the interaction. She can see the man as a fun, put together guy who knows how to go out there and get what’s his in the world.
You basically sit through two hours of torture watching some crappy movie about god-knows-what, and when it finally ends and the lights turn on, you’ve virtually spent two boring and awkward-filled hours with a complete stranger! And oh yeah, take all of this advice about not going to the movies, and times it by 10 when it comes to dinner dates! Unless you are older than 50, take her someplace fun like Dave and Buster’s, karaoking, mini-golfing, a fair, a park, dancing, an event, even go kart racing.
All of these ideas beat the hell out of doing nothing but watching a movie or watching each other eat!
I’ve known guys who were adamant about not paying for a drink or a meal or a ticket, and they were looked at by the women they took out as petty.
It’s one thing if a woman is obviously trying to have you buy everything or get her things; it’s another thing entirely to offer to get the first round of drinks on a first date.
When someone is their best self, they are all they can be and nothing more. Somewhere along the line paying for a woman when a man took her out on a date became shunned upon by the men’s self-help community.
They’ve worked at mastering their weaknesses and harnessing their strengths and they’ve overcome whatever challenges they’ve faced in life. Perhaps it was a necessity in the empowerment of man, and something that self-improvement-seeking men, especially in dating, needed to hear.
On a side note, a good woman is always going to offer to pitch in, get the next tab, pay for something else during the date, or offer to buy the subsequent round of whatever pops up.
Keep this in mind when you are deciding who is and who is not “girlfriend material.” Being “The Nice Guy” is not an effective strategy when trying to woo a woman.
Guys who read too much pick-up artist stuff tend to believe this fallacy.