Both the groom and the bride are to consent to the marriage of their own free wills.A formal, binding contract is considered integral to a religiously valid Islamic marriage, and outlines the rights and responsibilities of the groom and bride.You do not come close to fire, and then wonder why you got burned.
by Yasmin Mogahed Reprinted from Suhaib As-salamu `alaykum brother, Thank you for the honest question you asked regarding dating. First, you have pointed out that you live in a society where dating is the norm.
While I understand and sympathize with that struggle, it is important to make clear that just because something is the norm in one’s society, does not justify participating in it.
While it is fine for parents or mutual friends to introduce two prospective partners, the Prophet (sws) has told us not to go into a marriage blindly.
Once a man came to the Prophet (sws) and told him that he was going to get married. When the man said no, he said: (Ahmad) Islam provides the balanced solution to courting, which protects the individual and the society, but does not have people enter marriage blindly.
How could we ever think that a better system could exist than the one prescribed by our Maker and the master of the universe? I pray that what I’ve said has been beneficial to you. Just by seeing someone at work, school or a conference?
That feels like taking an important step based on insufficient information.
This is called (Sahih Bukhari) Now it is important to note that Allah never prohibits something unless it is harmful to us. First, most reports of sexual abuse are not committed by strangers. So, overwhelmingly, it is those people who you are out on a ‘date’ with that commit these crimes.
Also, as dating has become more widespread in a society, so has unwanted pregnancy, as well as sexually transmitted diseases.
So if dating is putting you at a higher risk of sexual abuse, sexually transmitted disease, and unwanted pregnancy, and it makes you no more likely to find a successful marriage partner – but in fact less likely – what logical person would chose this option, even if it were not prohibited by Islam?
There is also the option of completely arranged marriages.
However, 50% of first marriages, 67% of second and 74% of third marriages end in divorce, according to Jennifer Baker of the Forest Institute of Professional Psychology.