With our inability to make a decision due tothe other black hole of this crazy universe—too many singles to choose from–we collect people like trophies.
Instead of saying that you like to cook (which plenty of people will do), describe in detail what your favorite meal to make is.
"It gives a richer picture of who you are," he adds.
"You'd want a rock star résumé for your perfect dream job, and you should feel the same way about your online dating profile." And the profile is just where it starts—we have plenty of expert tips, from sending the perfect first e-mail to picking your first date location.
Here, everything you need to know to find love on the World Wide Web.1.
Your Profile Picture It can seem difficult to stand out in the vast sea of online daters; the best way to do so is by creating a great profile—and be sure to always include a photo.
"The amount of times that people are approached when they have photos is multitudes more than when they don't," says Gian Gonzaga, Ph D, e Harmony's senior director of research and development and head of e Harmony Labs. Leave behind group shots, which can make it confusing for other people to identify you, advises Spira, and choose a headshot in which you are smiling.
There is a balance between the healthy games of flirtation and being poorly-behaved daters. As the saying goes, first impressions are lasting impressions.
Dating is complicated enough on its own; when you add in the confusion of online dating sites, it can be just plain intimidating. There is a technique to navigating the virtual playing field.
"Your primary photo should be all about you." She recommends posting between three to five photos only—any more and "it's as if you're already smothering your future partner." Also, be sure to include a shot where you can see your body.
It doesn't have to be provocative (and you most certainly do not have to have a perfect figure!
We get caught up in the game of fleeting moments of interest that are filled with a whole lot of ego-fluffing “likes” and games of “catch me if you can” that never lead to a serious relationship. I know, I know we look younger than we are and we are on a diet because we gained some weight over the holidays.