Do you—and if you’re not sure what that looks like, experiment, but don’t go from 0 to 60.Try going on two dates with two different people in one week and see how that feels. What if you’re only really serious about one person, but dating two just to distract yourself?I asked her why distraction works so well, and why we are so much better at not freaking out about dating when we have a couple irons in the fire, even if neither of them is actually viable.
Women are planners, and those who think ahead enjoy backup plans.
Just like we prefer to have an extra umbrella in the bottom of the closet and more than one pair of jeans, so too are we more able to relax when we have more than one dating partner.
If that’s your personal Achilles’ heel, it might be worth exploring why that is so.
In the meantime, have fun, be careful, and—I have to say it—be sure to exercise caution and use protection if you’re sleeping with more than one person.
I’ve also noticed that she’s happiest when she’s dating a couple of people at once.
This has changed now that she has started seeing someone she really likes, but until recently, I encouraged her to keep seeing this other, duddier guy throughout, just so she wouldn’t concentrate all of her anxieties on one dude.
So go slow, and pay attention to how all of this makes you feel.
You may be a one-woman or one-man kind of gal, and that is totally OK.
“She hasn’t committed herself fully to one person, so she has invested less of herself,” Levine says of the woman who dates around.