But when you find yourself across the dinner table with someone and there isn't anything wrong with them but you're just not feeling them, I say try another date with this person and another venue, change of scenery, activity and see how it goes. No wonder dating leads nowhere...i guess u just like to have it complex .....it's very simple and i dont know why would you think it's not...it's not going to make u fall in love with this person even if you date her all your life ...u felt it ....usually u feel it from the first date .....u dont tell people off but i guess they should understand that u dont feel the same way and if they dont then so be it ....it's life , u move on and they'll move on eventually ...in goes round ... However, we would keep in touch (chat, e-mail, etc) and suddenly, when the pressures of dating are removed... I think for some folks it is very hard to just relax and be yourself early on in the dating process...For myself, it depends, the most I've done is four dates with not feeling anything and there being no connection. fwiw...u feel if you are atracted to, knowing someone comes with time , a date it's suppose to make you want to know this person and on top of that want to kiss him, hold his hand,listen to his voice, to make u want to hear more of what he has to say .....i was madly in love with my boyfriends but i didnt know them ..i only knew a little and what i knew came with time not from the first night ....connecting ...mean a smile that may make u feel something inside ...^^^Yeah it's pretty fast. The only reason I would go a date with someone I wasn't 100% into during a first meet is to determine connection beyond attraction.Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.
Being a great person is a separate thing from being excited about someone in particular. And someone may be extremely attractive to you at first sight.
They have to be nice and all, but then there also has to be some coincidence of personality and fashion sense. Big deal, it does not confer the ability to predict the future. My parents met through a small group of friends in college, over a period of time, not through a series of formalized dating rituals.
Everyone would have their own perception on what you mean by that...
If a gal is cool, decent, nice, attractive, but I don't "feel it", and I can't point out why I don't "feel it", then I'm retarded.
You feel like you're really kinda just spinning your wheels. If there is no attraction then there's no reason to plan a date (or continue the meet you're at for very long).
Unless it was someone I got along with enough to hang out with but not date and that person was ok with it.
Usually though it's that people will hold still when they sense a mismatch, so as not to encourage enthusiasm.
If after trying a few tricks to see what might be their particular way of engaging, they don't respond, then you are wasting your time and need to shut it down.
If I'm unsure about my feelings from the first date, a second date should hopefully confirm whether or not our relationship will progress, romantically. Personally, after years of knowing someone, I've one day realized that I really like them and find them attractive. As I understand it, this type of socializing is still common.
But I think anything more than that is just leading the guy on. You hang out with like minded people, without the pressure that comes from dating, and over time, as you learn about someone, you pair up.
Especially since before meeting they think you think they’re great. And if they ask, they can’t be too hurt if you tell.