Looking through all the profiles on other dating sites was daunting, so he decided to let a computer do the mate selection for him.He had a good feeling about this, and as luck would have it, his instincts were on target.
Now, with these new feelings firmly in place, it makes me question how much a true friendship we’ve been cultivating, and how much is simply an extended break-up, a phase, a delusion, or some co-dependent thing. They went out the window when I stopped to consider this: it’s possible that he really is going to marry someone else. It’s probably not a great idea for me to be his BFF until I do.
Him announcing he may marry this girl was like going through the first stages of divorce all over again. The thought -- the reality of that -- makes me sick. Has it simply been part of the grieving process rather than a real friendship?
After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads. ) Well actually my wife's best friend is me, but her friend Larry is her best friend she is not married to. Both insist there is no romantic attraction and I have nothing to worry about. ) Well actually my wife's best friend is me, but her friend Larry is her best friend she is not married to. Both insist there is no romantic attraction and I have nothing to worry about.
I see the joy that hanging out with Larry brings out in my wife and I want her to have her own friends too. My wife's relationship with Larry is exactly like many woman's close friendship with girl friends. I see the joy that hanging out with Larry brings out in my wife and I want her to have her own friends too. My wife's relationship with Larry is exactly like many woman's close friendship with girl friends. Okay, I think this is your 3rd, maybe 4th, thread about what is "normal" in a marriage.
But when I said sarcastically, “I’m really happy for you that you’re jumping into another marriage before the ink is dry on your divorce decree,” I was met with accusations of bitterness (yeah, no shit) along with the word “Goodbye,” texted to me. Were we fooling ourselves, to keep from feeling the pain?
Was he just holding onto a convenient I’ll-be-there-for-you-no-matter-what person in me, until he found someone else to fill the role? The only difference is Larry- her best friend- is a man. The only difference is Larry her best friend is a man. Seems to me you are really having some doubts about your own marriage. I have never seen two people who have so much in common.Have you and your wife considered a marriage counselor, just to clear the air and grow a little as a couple? Larry, her best friend is married also and tells me his wife has many close male friends also. My wife and I have gone out to dinner with Larry and his wife but there is just no chemistry between Larry his wife and I, the chemistry is between my wife and Larry.Just a few days ago I thought that it was entirely possible to be best friends with your ex-husband. For a year and a half, we’ve prided ourselves on not on our mere civility, but our emotional maturity dealing with the divorce, or as we preferred to call it, the “change in our relationship.”We’ve pleased ourselves and astounded our friends with the unique evolution of relationship from married couple to BFFs. (After the shock of learning she was moving in with him only four months after I moved out. Ouch/Ew/Gawd.) But, I rallied, wanting to still be there for him as his friend. Before, it was all advice and listening, guiding and comparing.After all, my ex and I have been best friends ever since our separation a year and a half ago. Everyone told me, “You can’t be friends with your ex,” but I refused to believe them. This is different -- this is “forever” (or so one might hope) – and also would mean there would have to be a major change in our relationship to sustain a friendship through a new marriage on his part.Or if I saw him out and I got a little loaded I'd toss him my car keys.