Put simply, a needy person doesn’t feel good inside and then saddles the other person with the responsibility to make them feel better… whoops, “my battery died, sorry I didn’t call you back last night.” Nobody’s perfect. When you boil it all down, neediness is not some set of behaviors. When a person takes on the belief that another person is responsible for their happiness, their sense of well-being and their sense of self-esteem, then it’s guaranteed that they’re going to act needy as a result of that mindset.(FYI, we have a whole chapter on this in our new book “He’s Not That Complicated: How to Crack a Man’s Romantic Code to Get the Relationship You Want“) Even the kindest, most well-meaning, most empathetic guy won’t be able to satisfy a woman who acts needy the majority of the time. I would be pretty surprised if you never had a needy guy around you. Making someone else responsible for your emotions is a key ingredient in creating a toxic relationship type dynamic, so it’s very important to guard against doing that (as well as recognize when others are doing that towards you).
As a female friend of mine said recently, That’s the truth about attraction.
If you’re not confident, you don’t look good to women. You can have all the muscles in the world but, if you lack confidence and are needy for attention, love or affection, women will not find you attractive.
The more neediness and insecurity you display to a woman, the quicker she loses respect and attraction for you.
When a woman loses respect and attraction for a guy, she then begins to fall out of love with him and question why she is with him at all.
No matter how hard you try, you can’t hide your lack of confidence or desperation from women. It comes through via your body language, tonality, conversation and actions.
If a woman wants to find out whether or not you are needy, all she has to do is show you some interest, seduce you by acting like she is interested in a sexual way and then pull back her interest.
If a woman is attractive, most guys in this world would be willing to stick their dick in her at least once just because she looks good.
Many of those guys would also be willing to have a relationship with her, just because she looks good.
In other words, you’re unlikely to have a happy ending with him, so steer clear of this species. “Unfortunately, such relationships aren’t healthy and don’t last the distance,” says Cindy. They aren’t just after a whirlwind romance; they want a freaking tornado – but what they don’t realise is that “true love can’t be rushed and isn’t fleeting... Talking marriage and baby names on your third date?
it takes time and work to build a real bond,” says Cindy.
Sadly, not all relationships resemble those from our childhood dreams. The truth is, he’s probably phoning you just to get his attention fix.