You can see it there on the horizon – the whole “So where’s this going? The dating game has changed dramatically, and while it used to be as simple as a quick conversation along the lines of “OK, so we like each other, let’s make this official”, there is now a list of new stages in a fledgling relationship that can seem to make things more confusing.
Everything has become a little ill-defined, and I wouldn’t be surprised if you’ve asked yourself these kinds of questions: The early stages of dating should be when you’re having the most fun of all, so don’t let things worry you, because really this is when you should be running through parks holding hands and making slushy PDAs on the tube.
If you’re having sex, it is perfectly understandable and very responsible for you to want to know whether or not your partner is having sex with other people.
It’s a wide spectrum of intimacy and time and comfort levels.
It’s important to set your own time frame for exclusivity talks based on your own feelings.
Some prefer to stay monogamous from the start, while others like to keep their options open, just as some view sex as something to be saved until the blossoming of a full-on relationship, while others need it early on to determine levels of chemistry and attraction.
The key is to be honest in your intentions without being bossy about the behaviour you expect from the man or woman you’re seeing.
This is not going to please your friends who are worried about you and want to protect you from broken hearts and STIs.
I know because I am one of those friends, and I want you to feel comfortable and safe always and never have to worry about what your partner is thinking or doing when they’re not with you.This is a very good strategy for not getting hurt, because if you start off with no expectations your hopes can’t be crushed.But having expectations and hopes is good, it means that you care and that what you’re doing is worthwhile.There really shouldn’t be any need to rush into anything – however, it’s important to be realistic.Everyone has different ideas of what’s right when it comes to dating etiquette.Sometimes we start important talks with an attitude of discovery.