If this includes paying your way, embrace it on your terms. Get as detailed as possible about what you require from your partner. Some ideas to get you thinking: How should your partner treat you? Get more tips by downloading my FREE e-book 3 Ways to say No without being Pushy or a Pushover.
Staying silent out of fear will not make your wants happen. Why wait for the moment the bill hits the table to decide if you are paying? If your ideal man showed up and wanted you to go dutch, would you?
Interesting times and shifting equations mean the choice to chip in or not on a date is up to you. Will you let the man you're with decide who you should be? Know your values and be willing to stand behind your own beliefs. Or do you prefer to share the dating costs and decisions as you get to know one another? Every human panic button is pushed in the dating game: self worth, hangups and money issues, to name a few. There is no right or wrong in the choices you make, as long as they feel good and are respectful to you and your partner.
If one person has plenty of money and the other does not then it is best if the person of means be generous with their money and pick up the tab more often.
This of course does not mean that the person of lesser means should never pay.
It can be awkward to discuss money on a date so it is best to get it out of the way as soon as possible.
Discuss who will be paying either before the date or at the start of the date to get it out of the way so you can enjoy your evening together.
Long held beliefs about the etiquette of dating often mean that that men and women think they should behave in certain ways on dates, especially in the initial stages of getting to know someone.
Times are changing though, and if you’re bewildered by some of the more old fashioned dilemmas such as who should pay on a date, read on for some useful dating advice.
Whoever does the pursuing and asking should pay for the date.
Most of the time it will be the man but sometimes it is the woman.
Toss in food, drink and possible sex, and suddenly the stakes are enormous. You may have decided you want to go dutch, but then the love of your life shows up and insists on paying for everything.