(Although online daters may be able to exchange messages after they pass each other's initial screening on the basis of evaluating the category-based information, the process is the opposite of the interaction-based attraction).
Online dating is a category-based, rather than an interaction-based process.
In the category-based process, one uses some concepts to predict both possibilities of acceptance and rejection by the others. I make a distinction between online communications and online dating/matching.
This type of artificial "contact" contradicts the process of meaningful interpersonal interactions (to be explained), which generates love and attraction.
To explain the problem, I need to first elucidate the ingredients for love and the meaningful interactions.
This is because the online dating/matching (as provided by the commercial websites) lacks the basic ingredients for developing real love.
The most evident problem involves its use of several categories (plus a few photos) for the daters to predict and decide the effectiveness and success of their further interactions with one another.
All categories are just the maps or substitutes of social reality, not the reality itself.
When people use categories to predict an interaction (but not pay attention to the other's real communications, they will produce two outcomes: a), avoiding love from right individuals, and, b) approaching the wrong person(s).
Love is created and maintained by the process of meaningful communications (including validating accurate perceptions and invalidating inaccurate perceptions of interpersonal reality). Additionally, love is highly individualistically based. Second, it does not help heal the emotional pains of some online daters." Please step into the 21st century of easy online communication and personal mobility. I would suggest introspection and psychotherapy, not any kind of dating.
Every online match I've ever seen moved at a deliberate pace from exchange of emails to IMs to phone to Skype to meeting face to face. Here's the study that needs to be done: Do couples who meet online through e.g.
Some people believe that recent research on online dating/matching sheds a new light on understanding attraction, love, and romantic relationships.