This makes plenty of sense to Dutch researcher Ischa van Straaten.“You can compare it to other social situations,” he says. And most people also just feel flattered when someone shows interest in them.
In 1998, American psychologist Art Aron brought dozens of couples (men and women who’d never met before) together in his lab at New York State University.
There he asked them to look into each other’s eyes for two minutes without saying a word. Afterwards, the overwhelming majority of test subjects reported feeling extremely attracted to their test partner.
But if you know those rules, they’ll definitely help you in situations where you’re able to make eye contact.” Waiting for her to initiate eye contact with you isn’t just swak, it’s also uneconomical.
A University of Aberdeen study showed that women (and indeed men) regard someone who explicitly seeks out eye contact with them as being “more interesting” and “better” than other people. In 2001, English scientist Chris Fith showed hundreds of people pictures of faces staring directly at them.
You can, if you are skilful, use this confusion to initiate a lively discussion about where you might have met before.” But do yourself a favour, and try not to bust out the tired old “Do I know you from somewhere? For example, women tend to make more eye contact in daily life.
But when a woman encounters someone she finds attractive, the chances are she’ll not be quite so forthcoming with the inviting glances.
Eye-gazing parties (eyegazingparties.com) work the same way as speed dating, with one eye-catching difference: while the 45-minute session is still divided up into two-minute face-to-face sessions with each woman, no talking is allowed.
It’s just you, her, and 120 seconds of looking into each other’s eyes. But eye-gazing parties are becoming increasingly popular, and scientific research shows that eye contact is indeed far more powerful than a great opening line or a charming story.
He then took brain scans of the subjects, and every scan registered activity in the region of the subject’s brain that normally produces dopamine when we’re rewarded for something.