The lies are too numerous and various to list them all.The scammer will say anything to get the victim to send money.Images are stolen from sites by organized internet crime gangs often operating out of Nigeria or Ghana.
Scammers are very adept at knowing how to "play" their victims - sending love poems, sex games in emails, building up a "loving relationship" with many promises of "one day we will be married".
Often photos of unknown African actresses will be used to lure the victim into believing they are talking to that person.
Fraudulent acts may involve access to the victims' money, bank accounts, credit cards, passports, e-mail accounts, or national identification numbers or by getting the victims to commit financial fraud on their behalf.
Letters are exchanged between the scammer and victim until the scammer feels they have groomed the victim enough to ask for money.
The victim contacts the scammer to ask what happened.
The scammer will provide an excuse such as not being able to get an exit visa, or illness of themselves or a family member.The scam usually ends when the victim realizes they are being scammed or stops sending money.Victims can be highly traumatized by this and are often very embarrassed and ashamed when they learn they have become a victim of a scam and that the romance was a farce.Another variation is the scammer has a need to marry in order to inherit millions of dollars of gold left by a father, uncle, or grandfather.The young woman will contact a victim and tell them of their plight of not being able to remove the gold from their country due to being unable to pay the duty or marriage taxes.The fraud typically involves the scammer acting as if they've quickly fallen for the victim so that when they have the opportunity to ask for money, the victim at that time has become too emotionally involved, and will have deep feelings of guilt if they decline the request for money from the scammer.