So let’s get this straight: While it may not feel good to have your boyfriend keep his distance when you had a horrible cold, you have to admit, it’s pretty practical, isn’t it?
My wife travels for a living and I can recall at least two times when she wouldn’t kiss her sick husband because it might jeopardize her health before a trip.
If you don’t trust him because you’re insecure about his friendship with his ex, you’re only going to accomplish the following: 1) You’ll make him feel like crap because his own girlfriend doesn’t trust him.
When the text came I thought it might have been important.
Your ex-girlfriend wasn’t to meet you for lunch on Friday.” I was very tired and just went up to bed. He defended being friends with her (they dated for about two years) saying she helped him during a very difficult time in his life and so on. Also, I pointed out his tendency to keep his relations with her private.
This is paranoid thinking and it serves you no practical purpose.
Your boyfriend has only lost interest in you if he shows no affection when you’re both healthy, not when you’re both sick. Next, you “made the mistake of looking at his text message,” and then “you made the mistake of scrolling back and reading the conversation” and then you made the mistake of bringing this whole thing up with him and then you made the mistake of thinking that it’s inappropriate for ex’s to be friends…
Thanks, Emily Dear Emily, Yeah, you probably asked the wrong guy.
I think you are particularly sensitive to your own needs and feelings and somewhat clueless about the needs and feelings of your boyfriend.
My boyfriend was also sick (with food poisoning) but he avoided me physically. He explained it was because he didn’t want to get sick again in the last few days before his work ended before vacation. I had thought he’d lost interest but took what he said and accepted it.
Second, a few days ago while he was on skype with his dad, a text-message came to him on the phone. We hadn’t been private about these things in the past at all.
I have photos, love letters, and emails from women in my past. If you’re insulted that your boyfriend is in touch with his ex, that’s your prerogative, but you’re pretty much ensuring the destruction of your own relationship. A woman’s fear of being hurt is one of the main reasons why men disappear. I really don’t understand why some women are so afraid that their boyfriends are going to go running back to their exes.