Games are an ego default when being "real" feels too scary. Being open and honest is a gift that's born of inner confidence and self-worth. Once you recognize this pattern, you've already gained your freedom from the automatic response instigated by your partner's game. Authentic communication reveals your partner's fears, allowing their concerns to be voiced and worked out while maintaining connection. This is a partner who's in the game for an ego boost and doesn't possess the skill set required for a relationship with you. Your time's better spent with someone who is capable of honesty, intimacy, and consistent behavior. Do they want to explore the possibility of a relationship with you?
A hot and cold player reverts to cold as the norm, with bursts of hot that don't result in forward movement.
The root cause of this behavior is a desperate attempt to gain control over the uncontrollable; love. But the partner, who's committed to playing safe, will never allow himself or herself to experience love.
Contact is reciprocal, time is made to see each other, and forward movement is evident. The hot phase is designed to get you in the gate that leads to the corral, where you'll later be harnessed. Your partner begins to pull away making you long for their previous attention.
Whether initiated by a cold-shoulder, avoidance, or lack of communication... This phase activates loss, making you yearn for them and wait with bated breath for their call or text. These are the basic dance steps to this type of behavior. This formula is predictable and consistent even when your partner's reactions are not.
The beautiful truth is that this has nothing to do with you. There's nothing you did, or didn't do, that's causing this.
Don't let your friends analyze your situation and convince you otherwise. One minute you're high on the warmth of their attention, the next minute you're frozen out and left wondering what happened. Whether you call it push/pull, on/off, or hot and cold, the end result is the same. Whether done consciously or unconsciously, this type of behavior activates longing and pursuit. If we don't understand the game of hot and cold, we can find ourselves pulled into a drama of confusion. Understanding this type of behavior is crucial even for those of you committed to not playing games. Behavioral extremes indicate a power play is being employed. Once we have the ability to see hot and cold for what it is, we're less likely to suffer its negative effects.Our automatic response is to chase when the "other" pulls away.What was once readily available is suddenly gone, and no matter how hard we try to regain our partner's former affection, it now seems beyond our reach. They don't need more time to figure out their emotions. The phases of Hot and Cold: The "hot" phase begins with a bang of overwhelming recognition. Bathed in newfound attention, flattery and flirtation spark a strong attraction for this person.*/ var click Promo Link = function(should Show Popover) ; /* ELIGIBLE PROMOTION CHECKS check For Promos And Render This is a series of 2 nested ajax calls.