Recovery without healthy relationships only perpetuates the sinful self-obsession that led to addiction in the first place.In recovery we must learn to shift our focus, thus becoming free to share intimacy with others.
If you feel convicted of certain behaviors, stop doing them.
And if it is true (Tolstoy was, after all, one of the most astute students of human nature who ever lived), then does that mean every healthy relationship of any kind is the same as any other of that same kind?
There’s just something I find touching about people coming together in their community to mount a play.
After one such play, I experienced a display of affection that to this day moves me to remember.
A healthy heart involved in healthy relationships is the precise opposite of addiction.
Addiction maintains a secret life marked by fear and control.There are many contrasts between healthy and unhealthy relationships. There is no need to hide or to try to fool the other.Taken together they chart a continuum between the secular model and the biblical model. Each person is also aware of the other’s strengths and weaknesses. In a healthy relationship, each person finds joy in sharing in the other person’s growth, in playing a role in “completing” the other. A healthy relationship can be described as two good friends becoming better friends. Few of the magazines that clutter the checkout counters of grocery stores publish articles extolling the joys of sacrifice. Unfortunately, most of us are more accustomed to demanding sacrifice from our partner than to sacrificing our selves.Genuine love, on the other hand, is marked by openness, trust, and the freedom to give oneself to another.Addictive behavior is a deceptive substitute whose effects last but a moment. Each person is aware of his own strengths and weaknesses.Does it mean that a healthy relationship between any particular father and son is substantially the same as any other between a father and son? As individual people, we can make a mess of our lives and relationships in ways so unique to us personally that no one could possibly imitate or duplicate. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged.