I am a graduate of a Christian college in the US, and when I was a student, I heard this “ring by spring” thing was happening on campus and I had no idea what it was.I realized very quickly that Christian colleges are seen as a place for women to find their spouse.
“Ring by spring” is not encouraged in any official way, and it’s generally invoked with a heavy dose of derision. Stacy Keogh George has observed in a recent study, this dismissive humor belies a very real pressure felt by some students to measure success by finding a marriageable partner.
According to George, this “not-so-hidden culture” emphasizes engagement instead of “encouraging men and women of faith to live out their individual vocations, which may or may not include marriage.” In the fall of 2014, George gathered some initial data on students’ attitudes about “ring by spring.” The results of her study are forthcoming in .
“He just asked you to dinner, not to marry him for goodness sake! But, how could I really know if I didn’t even give him a chance?
Dating takes practice and it may mean being open to someone who doesn’t initially meet your laundry list of expectations.
Imagine for a minute, what would happen if we viewed dating as a way to become a better person?
My advice: Become the person that you would like to date. Learn how to ask questions and how to share about interesting things in your life.
When you were an undergraduate, what did you do with the “ring by spring” message? But people made that seem so limiting, like we didn’t have life after 22 unless we had a spouse.
What were some of the biggest surprises of your study?
That said, make sure you have something interesting in your life to share.
At Whitworth University, a Christian liberal arts college in Spokane, Washington, one hears faint echoes of a social expectation that’s common to Christian campuses: “ring by spring.” It’s the idea that college students should have given or received an engagement ring by the spring of their senior year.
and right then and there, I decided that I wanted a Joshua Harris kind of guy to come knock on my door, ask for my hand in courtship and then off we’d go to live happily ever after.