And if you’re single, you’ll start to see more men wanting to ask you out and take you out.
“The kind of confidence we’re talking about really comes down to feeling good about your appearance and attractiveness,” says Craig Malkin, Ph. “Men and women both prefer a confident date, for a number of reasons.” For one, confident folks are natural salespeople.
Research shows that confidence makes us seem more trustworthy—and when you’re out on the meat market, selling how great you are, confidence makes people accept your pitch.
In an intimate relationship with a man, if you open yourself up, he could leave or take advantage of you. That’s because as humans we are wired to seek out a mate – to pass on our genes, and to have our children be taken care of, and so we get SO invested when we love or are in love with someone.
To lose it feels like you might as well die, at times.
Without confidence, you increase your chances of being left by a man, you increase your chances of being cheated on, and the likelihood of a relationship failing for you is high.
I know that sounds kind of dramatic, and it seems like a downer to think that you have to be confident to get the love that you want.“Amazingly, it didn’t matter what these women looked like! The chicks who got the most approaches by men weren’t the prettiest—they were the hardest working.“A confident woman who sends signals will win out over a pretty, retiring one ever time,” he adds.As a result, they lose out on the reciprocity effect.” People with low self-esteem also tend to view other people through the same dark lens they use on themselves, focusing on the negatives of whomever they’re with.Sure, anyone with a rudimentary grasp on evolutionary psychology would expect the Average Woman to love a confident man.Story time: Researchers once asked a group of students to treat a “shy and homely” woman as though she were extremely attractive.