The 'unreasonable behaviour' she cited in our divorce petition was me being more in love with my job than with her, rather than me being in love with another man.
Having tried and failed at marriage once before, I had no intention of ever doing it again.
My ex-wife Mary had been very kind to me and remains a loyal supporter to this day.
It was a gamble but it proved the most wonderful weekend I had ever spent with anyone.
But how was a long-distance relationship going to work? When we met I was working up to 18 hours a day at New Scotland Yard as Deputy Assistant Commissioner of the Metropolitan Police.
An important part of getting married to Petter is to demonstrate that this relationship really is different.
I am committing myself to the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, someone who can give me everything I need, for ever.Surely two people committing themselves to a stable relationship - who promise to love and care for one another for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, as the ancient vows go - is something most people would find difficult to condemn.They may not be the words we are using, but the sentiment of marriage vows, whether gay or straight, civil or religious is universal. As in the UK, they had decided same-sex couples should be able to enter into civil partnerships and, as in the UK, the politicians had also decided that gay and lesbian people should have equal rights.First I had to get a 'Certificate Of No Impediment' from a British register office to present to the Norwegian authorities to prove that my previous marriage was dissolved.I pottered along to see my local registrar and explained I wanted to get married to my male partner in Norway and that I needed a certificate.An hour later and after a series of calls to head office, the computer said yes.