"why on God's green earth would you be LOOKING for this kind of trouble???" But I'd love to hear from others...pastors and pastor's wives.
She should be able to bake like there is no tomorrow and not put on weight, she should be able to whip a church office into shape in the blink of an eye, not to mention put together a ladies retreat with style and grace, have been able to play the entire liturgy on the organ from the tender age of eight, and manage her house of five plus angelic children with a smile and a perfectly coiffed modest hair-do and perfectly tailored dress and modest heels.
Honestly, I don't know how many pastors out there think so much about what kind of woman they'd fall in love with because they are a pastor, as much as what kind of woman they'd fall in love with because they are a man who wants to spend the rest of his life with someone who has qualities they enjoy.
There were three things I immediately considered with respect to dating as a single pastor: From prior experiences, I recalled how people gravitated to me because of assumed privileges and perks of being in relationship with a pastor.
Sadly, some people are drawn to men in power and seek to use us as the means of their affirmation.
But I really need you take this job for me.” Wife: “Well, okay, just tell me what to do and when it needs to be done by, and I will do everything I can to make it happen.” Husband: “Well, right now there are no specific responsibilities. Things are always tight around here on a pastor’s salary.
Basically, it’s just doing anything at church that no one else steps up to do or wants to do.” Wife: “Oh my, that is a tall order. Husband: “Well, actually honey, there is no salary .
Unexpected phone calls in the middle of the night detailing emergencies and the overwhelming feeling that no matter how you lend yourself to your staff and congregation there will still be a disgruntled member is enough to make anyone want to escape God’s call altogether.
I’m certain, like me, many have wondered how marriage fits into this already full and exhausting schedule.
I functioned in strategic planning, curriculum and ministry development and filled-in as the youth pastor.