We had gotten together a few times and I had told her things -- personal things about my ex and our relationship, why I was getting divorced, etc.
If you and your ex share custody of your kids, that means running into her boyfriend every time you go over.
You will need to sort out your feelings and come to terms with his presence in her life and that of your kids.
But while doing so, go for regular medical check-ups - suppressing emotions never did anybody any good!
There are a few different things that happened during the time I was newly separated that caused me to classify myself as temporarily psychotic, one of those being when I figured out "my ex is dating my friend! Here was a woman who I thought was my good girlfriend.
You were married to her once and you both shared some really good times. Finally you both decided to close the curtains on your marriage. For some reason, it seems like she’s moved on and you haven’t…or at least you haven’t got somebody special in your life to move on with.
And if you are, it somehow makes it more difficult to cope.Or does he have a sense of smug superiority because he has what you haven’t?Or is it just because you can’t stand his guts, living in what used to be your home, with someone who used to be your wife and acting like your kids are his?If they sense your animosity towards their mother’s boyfriend, they will be torn between you and him. Don't voice especially the negative views about your ex-wife’s boyfriend, and their relationship, in front of the kids.Don’t present them with the difficult task of taking sides. Instead try and reinforce the positives, and by doing so, you might also gain a new perspective.Avoid topics that will arouse a debate, causing more friction!